That varies according to circumstances: the way in which a Bedouin woman serves (her husband) will not be like the way of a town-dweller, and the way of a strong woman will not be like the way of a weak woman. pleased with him) reported that the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon on. One of the most important rights/duties is that each spouse should Quran and Sunnah. By husband and wife, I mean those are lawfully married (not boy and girl friend) Praise be to Allah. Your husband is your #1 job. bint al-Mufaddal, the mother of his son Saalih, and he used to say of Tags: Conflict between spouses, How to resolve issue between husband and wife, Towards a better relationship between husband and wife, rights of husband and wife, How to solve problems and issues related to husband and wife and marriage, Tips for happy married life. Whatever is pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is right and proper; and whatever is mutually displeasing is wrong. four months, which is the period set by Allaah for the one that swears not to approach his 3. Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be Also your husband needs to grow some balls, I wouldn't take this from my wife and he needs to put you in your place like a real man. I have two children from previous marriage, and got remarried. treat your wife well. This is also one of the wifeâs rights, which means that her husband should prepare for her accommodation according to his means and ability. She only listens to Quran and Sunnah when there is no anger in her (Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/492). the discipline is taken to the second stage: Forsaking, by turning his back on her in bed or sleeping in (a)The mahr (dowry). What are the husband’s obligations towards his children and his ex-wife who has custody of them? has a good attitude will reach, because of it, the level of those who fast and pray. the other, and because they (spend) to support them) from their means. Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. The husband has the right to discipline his wife if she disobeys him in something good, not if she disobeys him in something sinful, because Allaah has enjoined disciplining women by forsaking them in bed and by hitting them, when they do not obey. The husband must have a good attitude towards his wife and be kind to her, and offer her everything that may soften her heart towards him, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âand live with them honourablyâ [al-Nisaaâ 4:19], âAnd they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonableâ [al-Baqarah 2:228]. Al-Qurtubi said: This aayah covers all the rights and It is reported in a saheeh hadeeth that a Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: There is no good deed lack of knowledge of the rights which each partner has over the other. well are to turn a blind eye and not to pick on things, great or small, and not to rebuke Â Secondly:Â The husbandâs rights over his wife. Neither party should resort It was written in Biharul Anwar, in order to create, love between the man and his wife. advise and remind the other to obey Allaah. Teach us which kind of wealth is best, so that we may try to acquire it? heart. trust from Allaah and they are lawful to you by the word of Allaah. For next four years his only wife was Sayyidah Sa’uda. especially words and deeds by which no harm was intended. It was narrated from Zaynab bint Abi Salamah that Umm Salamah said: âI got my menses when I was lying with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) under a single woollen sheet. A woman has the full rights to her earnings and property. My wife has not shown any remorse about the behavior of her daughter and see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live (c)Accommodation. If one spouse sees that the other is very angry, he or she The first wife’s consent is not a prerequisite for a man to take another wife. understand that you are the one who started it, you started by hitting her then you made dislikes one of her characteristics, he will like another. Among the things to which the Lawgiver drew attention in this matter is the prohibition of hitting or beating in a severe manner. February 11, 2005 by Admin. Although it is perfectly legal and acceptable in Islam for a husband to kiss his wife, one should take care not to display this form of affection and passion in public and thus expose the by-standers to share something which Allah Subhanah has permitted exclusively for the husband and the wife to enjoy. This girl must understand that she is a guest in the home of her mothers husband and daughter occurred. Her daughter is now 20 years old with her He If she desists, and stops rebelling, then he is not a separate bed. Allaah has made this discipline in stages, as follows: Admonition without forsaking them (refusing to share their I understand that backbiting is a very serious sin and in fact it is the same as eating one’s dead brother’s flesh. advising his ummah: Fear Allaah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a Then her daughter called the police and they came and questioned everyone and took her angry by laughing at her, which is when the mistake on her part and that of her The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was the ultimate in (f)The wife serving her husband. (g)Submitting herself to him. Your rights over your women are that they should not let anyone whom you dislike sit on your bed and they should not let anyone whom you dislike enter your house. (a)The obligation of obedience. Ibn Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Forsake her in her bed, and may reach the level of hitting, within certain conditions. There is a great deal of evidence (daleel) for this, some of which has been mentioned above. mercy on him) said: Know that Allaah does not command hitting in His Book in clear The imaam of Ahl al-Sunnah, Imaam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) terms except in this passage and with regard to the prescribed punishments (hudood), so But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. The Hanafis mentioned four situations in which a husband is permitted to discipline his wife by hitting her. My husband wants the following: Shabka, mahr, the money he spent to make the wedding, and the money he spent on the honey moon. orders or rebels against him, and that this discipline takes a step-by-step approach which Ill-conduct (nushooz) here refers to disobedience, There are no particular rules and laws either in foreplay or in intercourse. These are: not adorning herself when he wants her to; not responding when he calls her to bed and she is taahirah (pure, i.e., not menstruating); not praying; and going out of the house without his permission. them, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]. It is permissible for the husband and wife to sexually enjoy each other in whatever way they like, with a few exceptions: 1. with them for the girl to move to her own home. Our Prophet (ﷺ) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and as mentioned in the Quranic introduction above, Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. is not painful? It was narrated that Jaabir said: [the Prophet] (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: (d)Not going out of the house except with the husbandâs permission. If a woman disobeys her husband and refuses to obey him, he has the right to discipline married Abbaasah. what are a wife's rights on her husband according the Quran and Sunnah? There follow examples of the kind treatment of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) towards his wives â for he is the best example: 1. husbands property, etc.). This is because one of the purposes of marriage is to maintain chastity. husbands absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g., their chastity, their Unfortunately my husband and I reached the decision of divorce. And whatever she spends (in charity) of his wealth without his consent, â¦.â (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899; Muslim, 1026), It was narrated from Sulaymaan ibn âAmr ibn al-Ahwas: my father told me that he was present at the Farewell Pilgrimage (Hujjat al-Wadaaâ) with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Therefore the And it was said that they have the right that their husbands should not harm them, and their husbands have a similar right over them. striving for. This aayah indicates that for every right that one partner has, there is a corresponding She has the right to these things even if she is rich, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âbut the father of the child shall bear the cost of the motherâs food and clothing on a reasonable basisâ [al-Baqarah 2:233], âLet the rich man spend according to his means; and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allaah has given himâ [al-Talaaq 65:7], The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Hind bint âUtbah â the wife of Abu Sufyaan â who had complained that he did not spend on her: âTake what is sufficient for you and your children, on a reasonable basis.â, It was narrated that âAaâishah said: âHind bint âUtbah, the wife of Abu Sufyaan, entered upon the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, âO Messenger of Allaah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man who does not spend enough on me and my children, except for what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. things more complicated and causing more problems, then you must come to some agreement If she refuses him or rebels, then she is not entitled to that spending. He [the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)] praised and glorified Allaah, then he preached a sermon and said: âTreat women kindly, for they are (as) prisoners and you have no other power over them than that, if they are guilty of open lewdness, then refuse to share their beds, and hit them, but not severely. Islam states these rights clearly, and urges and obliges each partner He said, The siwaak (tooth-stick) and so on. Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great. It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: âIt is not permitted for a woman to fast when her husband is present without his permission, or to admit anyone into his house without his permission. said: The best is a remembering tongue (one that remembers Allaah), a grateful heart (h)The wife should treat her husband in a good manner, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): It was also narrated from him â i.e., Ibn âAbbaas â that this means: they have the right to good companionship and kind and reasonable treatment from their husbands just as they are obliged to obey the commands of their husbands. It should be noted that one of the main reasons that cause problems It was narrated that âUrwah ibn al-Zubayr said: â âAaâishah said: âBy Allaah, I saw the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) standing at the door of my apartment when the Abyssinians were playing with their spears in the Mosque of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Abul-Darda reported that the I slipped away and put on the clothes I usually wore for menstruation. I said something to my wife that made her his hitting is for the purpose of discipline and warning, and not for any other purpose, But if they return to obedience, (then) do not seek means (of annoyance) against them. to hit her in a way that is not painful. This is the money to which the wife is entitled from her husband when the marriage contract is completed or when the marriage is consummated. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âMen are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their meansâ [al-Nisaaâ 4:34], âAli ibn Abi Talhah said, narrating from Ibn âAbbaas: âMen are the protectors and maintainers of womenâ means, they are in charge of them, i.e., she should obey him in matters of obedience that Allaah has enjoined upon her, and obey him by treating his family well and taking care of his wealth. are those who repent. good treatment of others and good attitude. "Can a husband or wife think sexually with the one's spouse when they are apart i.e. upset with me so she became very foul mouthed and ignorant with her behavior even though The most disturbing thing for a man is his sexual impulse, so Islam urges women to help their husbands in this regard. The Shaafaâis and Hanbalis said: she does not have the right to visit (even) her sick father except with the permission of her husband, and he has the right to prevent her from doing thatâ¦ because obedience to the husband is obligatory, and it is not permitted to neglect an obligatory action for something that is not obligatory. The only limitation to this general rule would be any Shariah But he should not go to extremes in this by keeping away for more than it may also cause my husband to turn away from. like another, so he should balance the two. Yes it is permissible for each spouse to think of the other, but we must explain the following points with regard to this matter: Wudu while wounded. Nonetheless, both husband and wife should be reasonable and show excellence to the best of their ability, as opposed to only doing the bare minimum. We will mention â by the help of Allaah â some of the texts of the Qurâaan and Sunnah which have to do with the duties of the spouses towards one another, quoting also from the commentaries and views of the scholars. She has joint finances with her husband and she has children from a former husband, and she wants them to have a share like that of her child from her current husband. I grabbed her so she would not hit me in my face anymore, that's when her duty which the other partner must fulfil; thus balance will be achieved in all aspects of He covered me with his cloak so that I could watch their games, then he stood there for my sake until I was the one who had had enough. She approached me in an ill manner and i just lightly The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, Interruption of Wudhu. she has to respect the one who has given her refuge in his home. She is obliged to serve her husband according to what is reasonable among people of similar standing. When he had finished his prayer, he would look, and if I was awake he would talk with me, and if I was asleep he would lie down. Abul-Darda said to his wife: If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âAnd give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heartâ [al-Nisaaâ 4:4]. patient is the one with whom you live and interacts with most. him) said: Every son of Adam makes mistakes, and the best of those who make mistakes The hand should be there to wipe its tears. back to living together in one home. useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Question. or scold for every single incident, except in the case of duties towards Allaah. al-Jassaas said: Allaah tells us in this aayah that each of the spouses has rights over the other, and that the husband has one particular right over his wife which she does not have over him. Allaah be upon him) said: No believing man should hate a believing woman: if he her: Umm Saalih lived with me for twenty years, and we never argued over the [al-Nisa 4:34]. The next thing i know she is punching me and She also must protect his wealth, children, finance, belongings and other aspects of his household, as much as possible. something that he dislikes, because if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by Imaam Ahmad, al-Haakim, Ibn al-Salaah and others. I live in USA and I have been married before. slightest thing. and live with them (women) honourably. Al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have hitting you back and encouraging her daughter to misbehave towards you as you mentioned. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me, âHave you got your menses?â I said, âYes.â Then he called me and made me lie with him under the same sheet.â, She said: And she told me that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to kiss her when he was fasting, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and I used to do ghusl to cleanse ourselves from janaabah from one vessel. to tit-for-tat reactions. (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 316; Muslim, 296), 2. And she has non-financial rights, such as fair division between co-wives, being treated in a decent and reasonable manner, and not being treated in a harmful way by her husband. Qutaadah said: you should command them to obey Allaah, and forbid them to disobey Allaah; you should be in charge of them in accordance with the command of Allaah, and instruct them to follow the commands of Allaah, and help them to do so. correcting, not for taking revenge or punishing. The reason why it is obligatory to spend on her is that the woman is available only to her husband, because of the marriage contract, and she is not allowed to leave the marital home except with his permission. It was narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon: âFear Allah concerning women! Source: Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âLodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your meansâ [al-Talaaq 65:6]. (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said concerning this aayah: It is their 5 So why has Islam provided extensive rules and regulation regarding sex? i.e., those on whose part you fear disobedience and rejection of Allaahs command to (al-Fataawa al-Kubraa, 4/561). Living true Islam is all that I am This is a real “win-win” situation. duties within marriage. (Tafseer al-Qurtubi, 3/123-124), Source: Ibn al-âArabi said: this text states that he has some preference over her with regard to rights and duties of marriage. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a (Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 4/392). Trust Once the conditions of the marriage-contract have been fulfilled and it is valid, then the woman is obliged to submit herself to her husband and allow him to enjoy her (physically), because once the contract is completed, he is allowed in return to enjoy her, and the wife is entitled to the compensation which is the mahr. or what are a husbands duties to his wife and viceversa? wife. her as prescribed by shareeah. 1400 years ago it was something very common to marry young girls, in fact they were not considered young girls, and rather they were considered young women back then. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting mannerâ (Narrated by Muslim, 1218). Your rights over them One of those rights is that trivial mistakes should be overlooked, If a wife refuses to respond to her husbandâs request for intercourse, she has done something haraam and has committed a major sin, unless she has a valid sharâi excuse such as menses, obligatory fasting, sickness, etc. upset. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is I Kept my head and did not become in the same house with them. She will have custody of them, and he will arrange accommodation for them, … Intercourse is prohibited when the wife … husband and wife is a good attitude, hence Islam placed an important emphasis on this (c)Not admitting anyone whom the husband dislikes. that will be put in the balance that will weight heavier than a good attitude. (e)Discipline. lot for my wife and tries to strive with her in the way it is prescribed for us in the (i)Fair treatment of co-wives. The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of week between myself, my wife and her daughter. a woman leaves everything for a husband and comes to a different house. Ibn group of the Sahaabah asked the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): the relationship, which will strengthen the stability of family life. husbands, and their duty to obey and do what their husbands tell them to do. Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&AÂ© 1997-2020. against them means (of annoyance). If the wife refuses to do any of the housework and the husband refuses to allow her to visit her family, then although this is permitted by the letter of the law, such a marriage will not be a successful one, and this is not what Islam has commanded. between spouses, and that could cause these problems to escalate to a very bad level is a It was narrated from âAaâishah the Mother of the Believers (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to pray sitting down; he would recite Qurâaan when he was sitting down, then when there were thirty or forty aayahs left, he would stand up and recite them standing up. The rights of the husband over his wife are among the greatest rights; indeed his rights over her are greater than her rights over him, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âAnd they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]. Please assist me in this matter. The meanings are similar, and the aayah includes all of that in the rights and duties of marriage. The hadeeth also directs a wife to help her husband and seek his satisfaction, because a man is less patient than a woman when it comes to doing without intercourse. In the case of 'khol3', my question is, what money should the husband receive from the wife? you never give the warmth she needs.. over that now its expected for the women to work and earn . One of the best ways to ensure a good atmosphere between Divorce may be perfectly allowable according to Islam (the Prophet’s first wife was a divorcee), but that didn’t stop the gossip. Husband and wife helping and supporting each other will result in a strong relationship. to fulfil them, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): And they One of the rights that the husband has over his wife is that she should not permit anyone whom he dislikes to enter his house. 3-Age of Marriage in Old Ages: One must first understand that 1400 years ago was very different than now, times have changed and so have humans. What we advise you to do is to let your wife come back to you and go Ref:Islamqa. beds) or hitting them. acts as thou it was ok for her child to act in that manner. (b)Spending. One of the best ways to ensure a good atmosphere between husband and wife is a good attitude, hence Islam placed an important emphasis on this matter. This is a situation that has left my heart weak. It is a right which the man is obliged to pay to the woman. Some of the ways in which one can treat ones wife The Islamic term for marriage, “ nikah ” literally means sexual intercourse. A man should not make his wife angry if he sees in her This is Questions cannot be asked through this form. Allaah has made the man a qawwaam (protector and maintainer) of the woman by commanding, directing and taking care of her, just as guardians take care of their charges, by virtue of the physical and mental faculties that Allaah has given only to men and the financial obligations that He has enjoined upon them. The only laws and rules are the ones reached by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken understanding. and a believing wife who helps ones faith. disciplining) to husbands, instead of leaders, and without the need for judges, witnesses The scholars of Islam are agreed that it is obligatory for husbands to spend on their wives, on the condition that the wife make herself available to her husband. The one who Backbiting Between Husband and Wife. are that they should not allow anyone to sit on your beds whom you dislike, so if they do The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. i know that tomorrow may never come, but the other choice would be to cause a wall to build in our marriage, which will affect our children and give them the wrong understanding of islam. At the present time I am not Islam has enjoined upon the husband duties towards his wife, and vice versa, and among these duties are some which are shared by both husband and wife. (b)Making herself available to her husband. Part 1 One of the rights that the husband has over his wife is that he should be able to enjoy her (physically). If you see any act of disobedience towards Allaah, then stop them from doing it and rebuke them for that. if she mends her ways (this is good), but if not, then Allaah has given permission for you That is after he gives her the immediate mahr, and gives her some time â two or three days, if she asks for that â to sort herself out, because that is something that she needs, and because that is not too long and is customary. mushed her in the face and started laughing. kicking me. For this reason If the marriage-contract is done without any mention of the mahr, it is still valid, according to the consensus of the majority, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): âThere is no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched (had sexual relation with) them, nor appointed unto them their Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage)â [al-Baqarah 2:236]. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. We ask Allaah to help you all and create love between your hearts. As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish The husband must be careful to ensure that together. with regard to you. But we do [al-Nisa 4:19]. One of IslamQA's fatwas on slavery — specifically of men having sex with female slaves — has been noted in the media as one of many similar fatwas published by Islamic scholars on the role of women in Islam. Both husband and wife have to be patient and put up with thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of good. This was the view of Muqaatil, al-Saddi and al-Dahhaak. And of course a woman can pray with her husband a congregation prayer, but the sunnah is that she prays behind him even if hanafi scholars allow it, if the woman is just near (but "at the side behind") him, so that in case of a tall wife and a short husband during sujud her head would be ahead of his head, as the scholars say it is the position of the feet that counts. As Salaamu Alaikum: A situation arose last indicates that the husband has the right to discipline his wife when she disobeys his The relationship a husband and his wife should be like the relationship between the hand and eye if the eye cries. 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